Clélia Midori: The Power of Non-Verbal Communication & Personal ID
Discover how your gestures, style, and essence shape your image, impacting every area of your life.
In this episode of Donas da Voz, Livia Matos welcomes Clélia Midori, an expert in non-verbal communication and creator of the Personal ID method. They explore how personal image, gestures, and even scent influence perceptions. Prepare for a deep dive into self-knowledge and learn to communicate your true essence.
In the inspiring segment "Inspira e Ação" of Donas da Voz, Livia Matos welcomes renowned expert Clélia Midori, CEO of conceito.mid and creator of the Personal ID method. With her vast experience in non-verbal communication, Clélia offers a masterclass on how to enhance self-awareness to leverage our strengths and soften vulnerabilities, building an authentic and impactful personal image.
Non-Verbal Communication: What Does It Truly Say?
Clélia explains that non-verbal communication is everything we observe, feel, but don't hear. It's a powerful and often underestimated tool. It encompasses everything from clothing choices, colors, textures, and makeup to how we gesture, carry ourselves, and the tone of our voice. A significant study by Mehrabian reveals that 55% of communication is non-verbal (gestures/body language) and 38% is vocal tone, leaving only 7% for verbal content, meaning the words we speak. This demonstrates the immense impact of body language and visual cues on how we are perceived.
Unveiling Personal ID: The Seven Personalities
Personal ID, one of Clélia's most valuable methods, is based on human behavior, categorizing it into seven distinct personalities. We all possess a bit of each, but typically three are the strongest, forming a unique "blend" that influences how we love, act, and think. It's important to emphasize that no personality is better or worse, just different, each with its own potential. These personalities evolve over time, reflecting our growth and maturation.
Clélia presents some of the personalities:
- The Essential: Prefers what is practical, comfortable, and necessary. Connects with nature and is always prepared for anything.
- The Absolute: Characterized by traditionalism and timelessness. Values quality, dislikes being challenged, but tends to be overly self-critical. Conveys confidence and stability.
- The Diplomat: Has an open mind, loves to travel, and seeks unique experiences. Impeccable, enjoys studying various topics, and values sophistication.
- The Seductress: Seduction in her gaze and gestures. Intense, sincere, courageous, and pioneering. Seeks to be cared for, with a striking energy.
- The Detail-Oriented: Possesses a romantic and delicate essence. Emotional, empathetic, with an incredible aesthetic sense and creative power. Appreciates all that is small and subtle.
Strategy in Career and Relationships
Non-verbal communication is a crucial strategic tool. In the professional environment, details such as perfume (it should stay on you, not on others), eye contact, and open body language (avoiding crossed arms) are fundamental. For job interviews, Clélia recommends wearing clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident. The color blue, for example, is considered the most amicable in selection processes.
In personal relationships, non-verbal communication also plays a vital role. On a first date, the focus should be on the eyes, avoiding overly striking makeup or lipsticks. For sensitive conversations with partners, using low-contrast colors, loose hair, and open gestures (like raising hands to show disarmament) can facilitate connection and empathy.
The "Persona" Trap and Authenticity
Clélia warns against creating a "persona" that doesn't align with your essence. Exaggerating characteristics or wearing something that makes you feel uncomfortable usually indicates insecurity and is unsustainable in the long run. Authenticity is key. If your clothes or makeup don't make you feel good when you look in the mirror, it will undermine your confidence, even if you try to project a specific image. The goal is to enhance who you already are, not to transform into someone you're not.
Non-Verbal Communication in the Online Environment
In the digital environment, especially during video calls, everything that appears on screen communicates. The background, lighting, and even the organization of your space convey messages. Clélia emphasizes the importance of turning on your camera during online meetings and classes, as a sign of respect and presence. This not only demonstrates engagement but also aids concentration and connection with other participants.
Self-Awareness: The Key to Everything
Clélia Midori exemplifies how she applies self-awareness in her own life, from choosing perfumes to decorating her home to promote well-being and strengthen her relationships. She shares stories of women who, through Personal ID, discovered new professional paths, exchanging established careers for creative passions. Self-awareness allows each woman to understand her potential, live with higher quality of life, and align her purpose with her actions, making life more colorful and meaningful.
Recognizing and using non-verbal communication to your advantage is a powerful act of self-awareness and empowerment. Start today by asking yourself: "What do I need?" and align your choices with your true essence.