Thaís Rosa: Divorce, New Beginnings, and a Better Life Than Before
Discover how separation can be a gateway to self-discovery, empowerment, and a happier future.
Writer Thaís Rosa, author of the book "Meu Amor por Você Acabou" and creator of the podcast "Melhor que Antes," shares her journey of overcoming divorce. In conversation with Livia Matos, she reveals how she transformed the pain of separation into a path of self-discovery and purpose, inspiring other women to live "Better Than Before."
The end of a marriage is often socially viewed as a failure, especially for women, who are encouraged from an early age to dream of "happily ever after." On Donas da Voz, Livia Matos welcomes Thaís Rosa, author of the book "Meu Amor por Você Acabou" and creator of the podcast "Melhor que Antes," for an intimate and inspiring conversation about the journey of overcoming divorce.
Thaís, whose almost 13-year marriage ended with the phrase "Meu amor por você acabou," shares how this painful experience became a catalyst for a deep process of self-discovery and empowerment. Livia, with her own separation story, complements the discussion, showing that no matter how hard the fall, the best of life can indeed still be ahead.
The "Before" of Romanticism and Social Pressures
From an early age, many women are raised with the expectation of a "perfect" marriage. Thaís Rosa, hailing from a family in Minas Gerais, always dreamed of getting married, seeing the union as "life's salvation" and a natural path. However, she and Livia question the weight of social pressure that often drives decisions that, without such influence, would be different.
Livia shares that she married later, and if it weren't for age pressure, she might have invested more in her career or in being single. Thaís, in turn, acknowledges that in her case, marriage carried the same weight as her career. Today, she teaches her daughter the importance of knowing herself first, traveling, and having individual experiences before considering a serious relationship. Women often come to exist through the institution of marriage, losing their own identity.
The Shock of Separation and Rediscovering the "Self"
The phrase "Meu amor por você acabou" took Thaís by surprise, a shock that initially led to denial. She reveals that at the time, she believed she had a perfect marriage, even with the "cracks" she only noticed later. The pain of separation, according to Thaís, was intensified by a sense of betrayal, not due to infidelity, but because her ex-husband made such a significant decision without sharing it, making her feel abandoned in the process.
The grief of separation is a period of great pain, but also of opportunities. Thaís intensely experienced all phases, from shock to anger. She recounts how she was transparent with her young children, not acting like a "superwoman," but showing her own sadness and asking for mutual support. This attitude, along with her mother's support, was crucial for her recovery. Livia shares a similar experience, where her former mother-in-law's phrase "Where's the Livia I knew?" awakened her to the need to rediscover her spark and self-love. The suppression of emotions, as Livia attests, can lead to physical illnesses, showing the deep connection between mental and physical health.
Loving Again and the Purpose of "Better Than Before"
After the trauma, Thaís wasn't afraid to love again. For her, the problem wasn't marriage itself, but that specific relationship. She dove headfirst into her current marriage with Bruno, who patiently helped her overcome the traumas of rejection, reiterating that this was a new story. Livia Matos also emphasizes the importance of respecting individuality within a relationship, maintaining one's own tastes and passions so as not to lose personal sparkle.
It was from her own experience that Thaís created the project "Melhor que Antes", which includes a podcast, a book ("Meu Amor por Você Acabou"), and soon, a program called "Primeiros Socorros do Coração." The goal is to offer comfort and knowledge to women going through separation, showing them they are not alone and that pain can be a gateway to a fuller and more purposeful life. The project demystifies the idea that the suffering of separation is a humiliation, showing that successful women also face this pain, because we are all human.
Dealing with divorce isn't easy, but the journey of Thaís Rosa and Livia Matos shows that it's possible to transform pain into strength, redesign one's own life, and achieve a level of happiness and self-knowledge that is "better than before." It's an inspiration for every woman to find her own voice and courage to reinvent herself, overcoming others' expectations and building an authentic future. Life, after all, is made of cycles, and the end of one can be the glorious beginning of another.