Rediscover Yourself: Who Are You Beyond Marriage?
Before any union, find your essence and build your individual journey.
Losing one's identity in a relationship is a real pain for many women. The 'Donas da Voz' episode discusses the importance of self-knowledge before committing to someone, encouraging the pursuit of experiences and the building of a full, independent life. Discover how to rediscover who you are beyond social roles.
In the female universe, it is common for a woman's identity to intertwine and, at times, get lost in the roles of "girlfriend", "wife", or "mother". The 'Donas da Voz' videocast, presented by Livia Matos, brings to light a deep reflection on this issue, especially in the context of a divorce or separation, when a woman is faced with the painful question: "Who am I?".
The Pain of Losing Identity in Marriage
A separation can be a catalyst for rediscovery, but it also exposes one of the deepest pains: not recognizing oneself anymore. Many women, throughout a relationship, set aside their own dreams, hobbies, and even preferences to adapt to their partner or the role society expects of them. The question "Who am I?" echoes strongly when these roles dissolve, revealing a gap in their own individuality.
Prioritizing Self-Knowledge: Livia Matos's Advice
Livia Matos shares a personal experience and valuable advice given to her daughter. She emphasizes the importance for a young woman to have an individual and autonomous experience before getting married. This includes living alone, traveling, getting to know herself deeply, and building her own life and dreams. The intention is that, when choosing a partner, she already has a solid foundation of who she is, avoiding the trap of building an identity solely based on the other person.
This approach contradicts the traditional model, where women often go straight from their parents' home to marriage, without a period of personal independence and self-knowledge. By knowing herself first, a woman enters a relationship as a complete person, with her own tastes, desires, and goals, ready to share, but never to annul herself.
Build Your Own Story
'Donas da Voz' reminds us that it is fundamental to keep individuality and personal dreams alive, even within a relationship. May we be the protagonists of our own story, building a strong and unshakable identity that resists any change in marital status. After all, the most authentic version of you is your greatest asset, both within and outside any union.